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I found my spouse's or friend's phone number. What next?

The phone numbers listed in our database come from a telephony service provider and include the date and time a particular phone number was used to contact a decoy ad. What does not appear is which person actually used that phone number to make the call, whether it was an intentional phone call, rather than an unintentional call, e.g. a misdial, or if the caller was attempting to engage in transactional sex, or calling to discourage the person on the other end.

Finding out a loved one may have purchased or attempted to purchase a young person for sex can be an uncomfortable and shocking experience. You will likely feel a range of emotions including surprise, anger, or denial. These feelings are normal and justified. Before you do anything else, we recommend that you consult with someone you trust, such as a licensed therapist, clergy member, or law enforcement, to discuss the situation and to determine the best course of action. Everyone's situation may be different, and there is no singular best way to deal with this issue. We encourage you to assess your feelings, circumstances, and options before acting.

Although this may be a sensitive topic, we expressly discourage physical altercations. Further, inciting violence is contrary to our mission. Rather, we wish to encourage dialogue around issues that are often silenced.

I am a police officer. Can I get access to your database?

Absolutely. We are happy to partner with law enforcement to support investigations. If you are a police officer, please contact us directly here.

I am a business owner or HR professional, and found my employee's number. What should I do?

If you have found one of your company-owned phone numbers in our directory, you may be unsure of the legal implications and should notify your company's H.R. professional and legal department immediately. All companies should include in their policies provisions that explicitly prohibit employees from commercially exploiting children, and more broadly from purchasing sex illegally. Doing so helps create a culture of accountability around sexual exploitation for buyers and prospective buyers.

I tried to buy a young person for sex. So what?

It may be easy to dismiss online sex ads as simply a transaction between two consenting adults. However, children under the age of 18 are frequently caught up in the online sex trade for young people. In fact, the person you may be paying to have sex with may not actually be an adult and thus not able to give any consent. In paying for sex with a young person under the age of 18, you have sexually exploited him or her, and this is a serious crime. This is human trafficking.

Further, an adult paying to have sex with a young person is an inherently exploitative relationship. Even if the young person appeared as if she or he wanted to engage in the act, this is not a legal justification nor a healthy interaction. As well, the majority of youth who become involved in the sex trade indicate they want to stop. Many of these youth have suffered other emotional or physical traumas in their lives. Even in situations where the youth may be relying on the sex trade for survival, paying to have sex with a young person is not an appropriate or effective means to "help" them.

 

Where can I find sex addiction resources?

There are alternatives to sex buying. If you are struggling with your sexual desires or suffering from sex addiction, you may need help. Learn more.